Since a lot of us will be sitting across the table this week from family members who are of differing opinions on things… I thought It would be a good time to review an email I sent out previously. Here goes:
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I was on a little vacation last year and I learned a very valuable lesson from my Uncle Steve.
How to disagree with someone when they are wrong.
And in all fairness the other person wasn’t necessarily wrong, but they definitely had differing opinions.
We were sitting around a table after a round of golf (a round of shanks for me) or as somebody called it, “hozzlerockets”
And in the conversation, Uncle Steve asked another guy we golfed with what his opinion on something was.
It went like this:
Uncle Steve: What do you think about (insert thing)?
Guy: I think it’s a terrible idea, etc…
Uncle Steve: Well you’re not alone, it seems to be a very popular opinion… it doesn’t happen to be mine, but it’s very popular.
Guy: Well what do you think then?
… and then there was a healthy (and productive) discussion about the matter. I can’t remember what it was about, which is irrelevant anyway.
But I learned a great way to disagree with someone.
Step 1: Validate that they are not alone in their thinking (even if they are).
Step 2: Affirm that not only are they not alone, but they actually could be on the “more popular” side of the view point.
Step 3: Clearly state in a non-offensive way you don’t have the same thoughts on the matter.
Step 4: Productive conversation incurs.
I have been trying this around the house with wifey.
Me: Hey babe… why don’t you throw away some of the 275 magazines you have laying around?
Wifey: Because I will read them when I get to them.
Me: Well you’re not alone, it seems to be a very popular opinion… that is completely ridiculous!!!
And hence… I haven’t mastered it yet.
Anyway…
… what I HAVE mastered is showing beginners and seasoned pros alike how to play the piano without sheet music.
But Don’t take my word for it, I’m trying to sell you something. Take a real life students word like Des’s:
“Hi Tim, I always wanted to learn to play the piano, not to a standard of a concert pianist I just wanted to sit down at a piano and play some songs for family and friends. I tried a number of books etc… but I just didn’t “get it” until I came across your method. I tried the Layer Method and I haven’t looked back, not only is it easy, if you give it the time, but what fun to play songs that you want to play and also exercising you brain also. Many thanks to you, I can’t thank you enough.” Des Hadley
If you want to finally GET IT when it comes to playing piano for yourself then you will need to GET IT (The Layer Method) by going here:
